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The internet has blamed a dad for not wanting to partake in his daughter’s hobbies because he’s “not interested in them”.

Posted on the popular Reddit forum r/AmITheA**hole, a man with the anonymous username u/MandemFandem2 shared his story in order to receive feedback from the “AITA” community. The popular post has over 7,000 upvotes and 5,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began his post by writing that he has two sons (ages 12 and 14) and a 16-year-old daughter. He described typical activities he spends time doing with his sons, including fishing, sports, camping with friends, and coding. He wrote that he spent most of his time “bonding” with his sons, but not so much with his daughter. When the PO asks his daughter if she wants to do things with him and her siblings, she refuses.

A teenager looking out the window upset. The internet has blamed a man for not wanting to spend time doing his daughter’s favorite activities because they don’t interest her.
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The dad further explained, “My daughter asks me to do things like practice makeup, fashion, etc. I have no interest instead. I like things like football, fishing and swimming. construction. [home] deposit with my boys because we are always working on projects like how we are working on building a cabin. My daughter comes and asks me to come shopping with her, which I find incredibly annoying, so I pass on the offer. My boys hate shopping with their mom and sister, but love the things I do with them, so whenever their mom doesn’t force them [them to] come we always have fun.

“I asked my daughter several times to come but she refused. For the past few weeks she has asked me to spend time with her, but she never does anything that would interest me. Everything she done with me is showing me new clothes, talking about tv shows and typical teenage girl stuff I’m not interested in things like getting my hair done so I don’t often hang out with her,” he continued.

When his daughter asked him to do something with her and he refused, she snapped. She argued that the PO never spent time with her and that he loved his sons more than her. He confirms that her statement was not true and tries to explain to her that what she likes does not interest him. His wife has also sided with his daughter as OP friends believe his daughter is going through a phase. However, his daughter refuses to talk to him.

Newsweek contacted u/MandemFandem2 for comment.

As a father, how can I bond with my teenage daughter?

A father’s relationship with his daughter can be very important. If you’re having trouble bonding with your teenage daughter, here are some tips from childdevelopmentinfo.com.

  • Listen to your daughter. Dads often need to give their daughters advice to help them succeed in life. However, sometimes she just needs someone to talk to without hearing any problem-solving advice. It helps her know that you trust her to figure it out on her own.
  • Find out. Teenage girls go through different phases of their lives, including relationships, friendships, and health-related changes. When you ask what’s wrong and she tells you something you don’t understand, learn more about it.
  • Show love. It’s important to remind your daughter that you love her.
  • help her. Be there for her. When she asks for help, let her know that she can count on you to drive her to her friend’s house or to an activity.
  • Teach your daughter to be independent. Help her with things she might need to know in the future, like changing a tire. Find activities to do together that interest you both.
  • Be respectful. By showing respect to the women in your life, it shows that your daughter deserves respect from others.

Looking for activities to do with your daughter? According to Raisingteenstoday.com, there are plenty of activities you can choose from, including surprising her with tickets to a concert, teaching her something new, taking her out to eat, building something together, watching the sunrise or sunset. sun, organize a movie marathon and take it on a shopping spree.

Editor’s Responses

U/Far_Anteater_256 wrote, receiving top comment with over 30,000 upvotes, “‘Everything I do with my kids should be centered around me and what I love to do, and if my kid has different interests , they’re useless to me & I won’t spend time with them. I have other children whose common interests may reflect my self-perceived glory to me, and I’m all that matters. Yes, bruh. No question. [You’re the a**hole].”

“[You’re the a**hole]. Your daughter is not quite right. It’s not that you love your sons more than her. It’s because you love each other more than all of them. It’s just more convenient to hang out with your sons because they happen to be into the same things as you. Being a parent is a sacrifice. Sometimes that means getting out of your comfort zone and doing something you don’t find fun. Because it’s not really about the activity. It’s about spending time together,” u/spokanyon explained.

“[You’re the a**hole]. Your daughter shouldn’t have to think of activities that entertain YOU for you to want to get to know her. She is not the mother. That she wants to spend time with you is a blessing that you waste. You will not always have this opportunity. Again, it’s your child. You are, apparently, the adult,” u/madelinegumbo said.

U/IsMyHairShiny commented: “[You’re the a**hole]. It’s so selfish and narcissistic not to spend time with her because you don’t like her interests.”

“[You’re the a**hole]. Honestly I read this and my heart sank for your daughter,” u/ravvex admitted, “You are her FATHER, it’s not all about you. Let her do your hair, make up, dress you in silly clothes. It’s crazy to me that you neglect time with her because it’s boring. That’s how you end up with a kid who’s 18 and wants nothing to do with you.”

Newsweek has published several articles about teen-parent conflict, including a father who was dragged for discarding his daughters in favor of his son and a father who was criticized for criticizing his daughter for doing nothing.